OK so first let me thank you all for the comments and suggestions over the past year plus.
Many of you have followed the saga for a long time, and have been frustrated as i have.
After months of trying to figure out the issue and multiple people having their hands on the vehicle and Adam spending so much time with me on the phone today I have a solution.
The Jeep dealer had it for two weeks, and offered camber bolts with no guarantee. Today they offered a Fox Heavy Duty steering stabilizer, and after putting them off until I could speak to AC Giddens at All South I made a decision. I spoke to Adam for 20+ minutes and we decided the SS would mask the issue and cause tires to wear quickly. He suggested upper and lower CA. My wife said she is sick of throwing money at the issue, and is afraid it will never be fixed. I am tired of dropping money when i could use it for other upgrades, and I fear for the safety of my passengers (my family).
No one can figure out why the tires keep toeing out shortly after an alignment so after more thought of the CAs and the money it would cost without gaurantee of a fix my wife made a decision, and I swear i was not on board and was standing in the parking lot about to cry i was so upset to make this decision. I told her it is not right and we should not do it! She insisted and so the decision was made.
So here it is a year after of discussion too much money wasted too many unanswered questions and a fear of breakage I bought a new Jeep. A 2021 JL (boy that is going to take some getting used to) Unlimited Sport.
It could not have worked out better and the dealership was seriously the best i have ever worked with while buying this Jeep. I told the salesman "I am not here to buy a Jeep and I do not want to buy a Jeep, so I wont BS you and I dont want you to BS me!" Long story short it was the best decision. No more issues with pulling, no more safety concerns, no more wasted money on monthly check ups at a Jeep/alignment shop. I am still wrestling with a car payment but it is very manageable due to the nice trade allowance.
I think we can officially close this thread, so thank you all for the responses. I am sorry we never truly solved the issue and I hope no one ever goes through something like this again. Throwing money at a problem and hoping it solves it sux.
cant wait to get this one a little dirty.