Let her go out by herself! Trust me, if this is a problem, her going out without you, than it won't work in the long run! Mine use to bartend, believe me, I know how it feels at first. But if you trust them(which you should only trust you to begin with and your parents next) there should'nt be a problem with this. Work can't be the only time you have away from eachother. You will end up smothering eachother. Go out with your old buddies and meet up with her somewhere or DD for her and the girls. Trust me, if your going out and not having a goodtime, she will know! As for maturity, hell I was out last summerand watched so 50 year olds duke it out. Over what? Because one told the other how to raise their kids. Bottomline, if you don't want to go than don't. I am not a bar hopper anymore either. But I do it with close friends, maybe once a month. Other than that, its at a buddies house for dinner and drinks and in bed by 4am!!!